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What does a BDSM relationship look like?

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  1. BDSM relationships can roughly be divided into two categories: dominance/submission and sadism/masochism. Although they may appear similar, there are some major differences between these two categories. In dominance/submission, the dominant partner (called “dom” or “top”) seemingly takes control over the submissive partner (the “sub” or “bottom”). We say “seemingly” because, in BDSM and power plays, the control is actually shared rather than granted completely to just one of the partners. The transfer of control lies in the very heart of a dom/sub relationship, and just like everything else in BDSM, it relies on a set of very strict rules, created with the purpose of avoiding actual harm. It is also worth noting that some people identify as a “switch,” meaning they sometimes enjoy being a dom and sometimes a sub. The second category involves a relationship between a sadist and a masochist. The sadist gets sexual gratification from hurting his partner, either physically or psychologically while the partner, who is a masochist, derives gratification from suffering pain and humiliation. It is a symbiotic relationship in which everyone gets what he or she wants. Sadomasochistic relationships tend to be more concrete and physical than the sub/dom ones, which do not even have to include physical contact. It is important to stress that both parties in a BDSM relationship gain arousal and gratification to an equal extent, regardless of what it may seem to an outsider. Because of this, BDSM relationships are actually very understanding and fulfilling.

    Anne - Dec 28, 2016 | Reply

  2. It depends on the type of relationship. For example, a couple that is into the dom/sub dynamics will live completely “normally” throughout most of the day and then stage little plays or scenes or engage in their preferred BDSM scenarios. They may also have comventional sex if they feel like it. Master/slave relationships are a different thing. If they live together, the relationship is based on ownership of the slave by the master. Slave is often now allowed to sit at the same table as the master, to eat the same food, he/she needs to ask permission to pee, and so on. Sometimes the slave has to go on all fours all the time. So basically there is no typical BDSM relationship, it all depends on what the partners like.

    joseph - Dec 28, 2016 | Reply

  3. There is no single answer to this question. Every person has their own needs and desires, and they can only roughly be categorized as B, D, S or M. When a person with specific desires finds another person with similar or compatible desires, they enter a relationship in which they complete each other because their preferences are compatible. In my opinion, because of this, BDSM relationships are more stable and durable than other relationship, because there is not only a feeling of mutual fulfillment, but also a bond of trust and confidence.

    manny85 - Dec 28, 2016 | Reply

  4. You should try it out and see for yourself. Trust me you’ll love it.

    tessa578 - Dec 28, 2016 | Reply


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