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What exactly constitutes “aftercare”?

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  1. Aftercare may encompass all the actions required to bring the sub back to “normal,” both emotionally and physically. As you may or may not know, BDSM scenes may involve quite a lot of physical, mental and emotional harm. After the exaltation and trance-like state the sub experiences during the scene, there may be an abrupt shift in her state, she may feel very depressed, anxious, agitated, hurt, confused….this is called “sub drop.” It is vital to make sure the sub feels protected and loved. This can be done by cuddling, reassuring and loving words, caressing, and so on. If the scene was particularly rough and violent, the Dom should clean any potential bleeding wounds, apply ice packs on bruises, massaging some calming oils, offer pain killers, and, of course, make sure the sub can relax, maybe even take a nap, in a warm, comfortable environment. Food (nutritious snacks) and water are also a must. Basically, aftercare means making sure your sub gets well, whether it’s emotionally and mentally, or physically, or both.

    Teun - Jan 20, 2017 | Reply

  2. Usually, by “aftercare” we mean making sure your submissive partner is well and taking care of any potential damage. BDSM can be very rough and potentially dangerous for health and mental sanity so aftercare makes sure there are no serious consequences.

    Faithless - Jan 22, 2017 | Reply

  3. It means taking care of your sub after a play or a scene.

    Varda - Jan 23, 2017 | Reply

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