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What separates BDSM from rape and assault?

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A lot of BDSM stuff, especially with elaborate medieval-looking chairs, crosses and tables, looks dangerously similar to rape to me. I don’t get it, are the girls faking it or what? Where is the point when BDSM just turns into sexual abuse? I mean, the whole point of it is to subdue someone and do what you want with them, so how is that not rape?

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  1. It is extremely important to understand that rape and BDSM practices are two very, very different things. First of all, rape is illegal, while BDSM is not. Rape is a horrible act of violence and BDSM involves life-affirming, caring and mutually beneficial erotic practices. And, most importantly, rape is intercourse without consent, while BDSM is all about consent. BDSM doesn’t even necessarily have to involve actual intercourse, but what it does involve is a set of very strict rules which all parties absolutely need to follow and respect, otherwise everything shuts down immediately. That is the primary difference between BDSM and sexual abuse. BDSM activities and practices are often discussed by all the involved parties beforehand, and a safe word is usually established, in order to prevent a consensual, enjoyable and arousing experience from turning into abuse. Some BDSM practices involve some form of simulation of sexual assault (“pretend rape” or “rape play”) but even in those instances, and especially in those instances, consent is the number one concern and needs to be established with utmost certainty. Rape, on the other hand, is a devastating form of violence and abuse and, by definition, occurs without any form of consent of the victim.

    Anne - Dec 28, 2016 | Reply


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